If you’re secretly hoping he’ll develop feelings for you, casual sex may not be the best idea.
It doesn’t take a scientist to know that the overwhelming majority of women can’t have a hot, casual, sexual relationship with a man and not get hooked in. It simply doesn’t work.
For women, sex is both an emotional and a physical experience, so most eventually wind up having feelings for the guy and hoping that he will fall in love with them.
For men, sex can be purely physical. I am not saying that men can never connect the physical and the emotional when it comes to sex, but unlike women, they can separate the emotional and physical, allowing them to have recreational sex without getting attached.
What further complicates matters is that men and women don’t seem to understand each other. Women get angry with men for remaining emotionless and unattached, and men get angry with women for developing feelings for them when they told the women from the beginning that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere.
Many women make the mistake of thinking that just because they can develop feelings for a man over time, a man will eventually develop feelings for them. Most men know right away if they have deeper feelings for a particular woman and want more than just sex with her.
Many men have even admitted that, if they really like a woman, they don’t want to sleep with her right away.
Let’s be clear. I am not saying that there is anything wrong with having casual sex. But if you participate in it, you need to know that it rarely, if ever, leads to something more meaningful. Women, you need to tattoo this on your brain. If you engage in casual sex with men, do not expect it to go anywhere.
Men and women are wired differently. When a man tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him. Even if he is spending every night cuddling with you, giving you gifts, and making wild, passionate love to you; if he has told you he isn’t interested in a relationship, you probably won’t ever be anything more than a hook-up for him.
Do not spin it into some kind of personal challenge, thinking that you will be the one to reform him. Do not tell yourself that his actions are showing you that he really cares about you. Do not think that this is anything more for him than what it really is: Sex for sex sake.
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