The Advantages Of Being Good-Looking

There is a lot of advantages of being good-looking , here is a couple of them.

1. Receive compliments ever so often

2. Nobody ignores you when you say Hi

3. You are given a moment to express yourself

4. There's a confidence that comes with being beautiful

5. It's easy to talk to anybody regardless of position. Beauty opens the door and knowledge keeps you there

6. It's easy to talk to little kids.I find kids get attracted to beautiful faces.They fear scary ones

7. You get served very fast anywhere you go.Forget the motives.

8. Your challenge is how to sift guys not how to woe them
 

Having said that, beauty lies in the beholder's eyes. The standard of beauty of someone may not necessarily be anothers
 

Why Are More Women Unfaithful?

Lately, it seems wherever you turn there is a study on infidelity or adultery. You may have noticed that more and more studies show women catching up to men in their promiscuous pursuits.

 For example, CNN recently ran an article called Moms Gone Wild detailing the accepted unfaithfulness among married women in the 40 and up range. 

Whatever the cause, there is one undeniable fact: more women are having (or at least admitting to having) affairs than ever before.

To be fair, men are still the more unfaithful of the two sexes, but the gap is closing. The best estimates are that 20 percent of men are unfaithful compared to 15 percent of women. However, a recent study found that once women decide to cheat; they have more partners while doing so, 2.8 sexual partners compared to 1.8 for men to be exact. This study also notes that women statistically cheat earlier in the marriage, “While unfaithful men don’t have their first affair until almost six years of married life the average female cheater strays just five years after exchanging wedding vows.” So, why are more women being unfaithful?

I’ve heard a couple theories…

Women are better liars and better cheaters

I’d like to say this is false, but it is actually somewhat true. Studies show that, overall, women are better liars than men – whether being a better liar makes you a better cheat is up for debate but I’m sure it doesn’t hurt – because they are “more psychologically sophisticated” than men. In other words, women are wired differently than men.

As a result, women are less likely to get caught cheating since they are more sophisticated in their reasoning, justification, and even how they carry out doing so. While ninety-five percent of women have cheated and not been caught; only 83 percent of men can say the same.

Women are simply acting more like men

There is a popular misconception that women are simply acting more like men. I disagree. In my opinion, women are acting more like successful people. It was likely more difficult to cheat back in the day when women were historically expected to remain in the home and depend on their husband’s income. As the saying goes, “with great power comes great responsibility.” History has proven, often through the misguided pursuits of men I might add, power causes some to abuse their power. Powerful men have acted ignorantly for generations, especially when it comes to women, irrespective of their marital status.

As women have improved their social and personal statuses, like the men before them, some of these women believe they are entitled to fulfill certain desires. Sometimes these desires entail enjoying the company of men who are not necessarily their husbands. In reality, women haven’t changed much, but society has changed a lot. These changes in society have allowed more and more women to have more and more opportunities to cheat at the workplace and beyond, and they now have the means to do so if you consider the fact that each generation of women is more educated and wealthier than the previous. Stated another way, women have more worldly temptations to resist than ever before. These same temptations are something men have clearly struggled with for generations.

This isn’t meant to excuse the actions of unfaithful women (or men). But, it does seem more complex than brushing it off as women acting like men – a statement that doesn’t make much sense in the first place unless there is a clear definition for how a woman and man should act, which I assume is written by the same people who define how black and white people should act. Of course, that is another topic for another day.

Why do you think more women are being unfaithful? Is this a reflection of a change in women as individuals or a larger change in society’s evolving view on relationships and monogamy as a whole?

5 Ways To Show Love In Your Relationship

 Bring joy and love to your couple hood.

 There are literally hundreds, if not hundreds of thousands of ways we can behave that could be considered loving. Yet, it is from where the gesture comes from that distinguishes the loving act from the empty gesture.

What good is it if you hold your tongue in an argument, wanting credit for displaying self-control or hoping to get some payoff (like sex), while ultimately, you have contempt for your partner and find their behavior regularly intolerable? There's very little good in that, it turns out! If your goal is to display your love or affection genuinely, here are my five suggestions.

1. Study your partner. Take care to learn who they are. What do they love, like and dislike? What do they find difficult? What sends them into their outer limits? While this independent study may not result in your behaving much differently, your attention and care will be felt. Your investment of time is of the utmost importance to the overall quality and health of your long-term relationship

2. Include their overall happiness as part of your daily awareness practice. In other words, check in with them daily; inquire about their feelings, dreams, struggles, agenda and goals, personal and otherwise. Hold their vision for themselves as if it were your own.

3. Listen carefully. Most people tell us what they want from us. If not directly, they usually drop clues constantly about what would make them happy, even deliriously happy. "An uninterrupted hour, free from housework, kids, phones, noise, responsibility and … don't ask ... Oh I could use a massage, a romantic dinner, to have you kidnap me for the night, or simply to pick up your dirty socks and clean up after yourself so I don’t have to ask you."

4. Make it happen! Do not underestimate the little things; they can be the best sometimes. My husband gets up and makes me green tea with the exact right amount of soy milk in it every morning, even when we travel. I am so thrilled and grateful because I get to lie in bed those five extra minutes, and he knows how much I love to sleep in. 

5. Embrace what you don't know. Then there's what we don't know about each other, where we stretch each other and ourselves.

 It becomes a joy to try and find new ways to bring joy, laughter, surprise or peace of mind into your partner's existence. But from where we do that, as I said, makes all the difference in the world.

Kogi: Gunmen kill 16 worshippers in Deeper Life Church

No fewer than 16 worshippers lost their lives, Monday evening at a Deeper Life Bible Church situated at Otite in Okehi local government council of Kogi state.The Commander of Army headquarters Task Force, Lt Colonel Gabriel Olorunyomi, confirmed the incident to our correspondent in Lokoja.

According to Colonel Olorunyomi , “unknown gunmen invaded the Deeper Life Church in this night (Monday) during a worship service and open fire shooting at the worshippers” he said.

He added that 15 people died instantly while the sixteenth person died in the hospital.

Meanwhile, the Military Joint Task Force has cordoned of the area whilst further search are on-going for the perpetrators of the act.

I Nearly Lost My Manhood To My Wife

A 32-year-old man told a Lagos customary court sitting in Ikeja  that his wife grabbed  his genital and threatened to cut it with a knife.

Kolawole Richard claimed that  Janet Uduka  would have carried out her threat but for the intervention of neigbours who heard his distress call.

Kolawole alleged that Janet  was troublesome and never took her  marital responsibilities seriously, adding that their union is blessed with a child.

He said that what gave him concern  most was that his wife always starved him of sex,  a situation that  usually led to quarrels.

While giving evidence in the open court, Kolawole brought a photogragh showing a deep cut on his genital to buttress his claim, and this almost caused commotion, because those in attendance wanted to have a glimpse.

He urged the court to dissolve the marriage and grant him custody of the only child of the union.

In her defence, the wife  told the court that Kolawole was fond of sex  such that he always picked quarrel whenever she denied  him.

She said that she had begged him for forgiveness, but he insisted that the marriage must be dissolved.

The president, Mr. S. K Hussaian, dissolved the marriage and ordered the husband  to compensate Janet with 26,000 Naira, and custody of the child was granted to the wife.

''7 Ways To Improve Your Confidence'' ,,,,,,,,,,,,,

We aren’t confident ALL the time.  No matter what is going on in our lives, we all deal with a lack of confidence every now and then.  

Naturally, how we combat that problem happens in many different ways.  Although subjective to each individual, ways to enhance/improve your confidence are possible with these seven simple ways.

1. Tap into your alter ego.

A way to enhance your confidence is to show that other side of yourself, your own Alter Ego. Doing this can trigger a positive reaction and better time overall, so, who’s your Alter Ego?

2. Listening to music that gets you in the right mindset

Many people use music as a way to perk-up and start their days the right way.  Getting motivated to prepare your mind for that business meeting or a casual date, music can help relieve the stresses of the day.  Your nerves are at ease and you can conquer anything with the right mindset.

3. Communicate with more confident friends

Besides our family members and significant others, we always have someone else we can rely on: our friends. Anytime we need a pick-me-up, we should look to our most confident and most reliable friends to lift our spirits. Not only does a conversation with them help our self-esteem, but it gives us inner strength to be ourselves…and to be a more positive light in the lives that we touch.

4. Stating positive affirmations to oneself in the mirror

Many people who know about the power of the spoken word understand that reciting or speaking positively can have great effects on your life and your confidence level. Some call it good karma, that what you speak or do comes back to you. Speaking good things about yourself in the mirror helps you to evaluate and uplift you to do/be better, which in turn, gives you a great confidence boost for the day.

5. Trusting and having faith in GOD

As touchy a subject as this can be, many people find that believing in a spiritual being other than themselves helps push them mainly because their worries or fears seem small when left up to someone greater than themselves.

6. Put yourself in situations that require you to SPEAK UP and OUT!

This is a confidence builder because it forces you to have to face a challenge or maybe even a fear that you have.Overcoming anxiety to make a speech or to speak up or about something you believe in, lets you know deep down that you can accomplish a difficult task.

7. Be knowledgeable about your gift(s) in order to share them with the world

We all have natural-born talents, but don’t know how to showcase or manifest them. Learning how to perfect and share our gifts will certainly improve confidence.

Seven Ways To Get Out Of The 'Friend Zone' With A Girl

Here’s a typical scenario of how the friend zone situation is for most guys:

You meet a girl. You hit it off pretty well. You start being friends. You start to feel that she has a thing for you, but you’re too scared to make a move. You get an opportunity to take the relationship to the next level, but you’re still too scared so you don’t do anything. Time passes. You’re still friends. You have a great time whenever you’re together, and you’re closer than ever with each other. When you FINALLY do get the courage to say or do something, she delivers the ultimate blow: “I just want to be friends.”

So now you’re trying to find out how to get out of the friend zone and stay out of it, for good.

Is there any hope for you? Fortunately, the answer is a resounding “YES!”

For most guys, getting out of the friend zone usually means that you had a chance at the beginning, but then somehow, some way, for some reason or the other, YOU BLEW IT. You took a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the dreaded friend zone.

I’ve landed in the friend zone MANY TIMES ever since I started liking girls. So what do you do now? Here, I’m going to share with you my simple 7-step process on how to get out of the friend zone.

1.) Accept the reality of the situation.

No begging or pleading for her to give you a chance. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you, and no amount of convincing will change her mind. Instead, we’re going to approach the situation by working on her irrational and illogical side. Don’t withdraw yourself, but you’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you at this stage of the process.

2.) Improve yourself.

There is no single person in this world who can’t use a touch of self-improvement. Start lifting weights. Start eating healthy. Learn something new. Try out some sports. Get that adrenaline pumping through your veins. Trust me, you’ll feel much better about yourself and gain more self-confidence, and you’ll look better in the process (if you decide to work out).

3.) Have fun with other people.

You cannot and should not put all your eggs in one basket, EVER. Start meeting some people. Your friends have friends who have friends of their own — work different social circles. Meet girls and learn how to flirt well. Ironically, the more women you meet, the better you will do with the girl you’re trying to escape the friend zone with. The more jealous she gets, the better.

4.) Ask her out on a Non-Date.

Now the game begins. If she’s hesitant to go out with you on one-to-one basis, start asking her out on Non-Dates. A Non-Date is basically a get-together where you ask her to accompany you doing something that you would do anyway. Something like picking up some books, buying some new clothes, etc. She’s more likely to go with you than if you ask her to go to dinner.

5.) Flirt with her.

The number one reason guys can’t get out of the friend zone is because they don’t realize that it’s a matter of sexual attraction; or rather, the lack of it. So start teasing her playfully. Start with playful compliments until you can eventually move on to flirting that’s more sexual in nature. If I notice that she put on some perfume, my favorite line is, “You cannot wear that perfume around me any more, because I’m afraid that one of these days I won’t be able to hold control myself and do something BAD.”

6.) Emphasize your sexuality.

If you failed to make a move before, then you can’t be Mr. Touchy all of a sudden — she’ll know what your doing. Start slow with casual touches on the arm, or the small of her back. Then graduate to hugs. If she talks about other guys, then talk about other girls and be very graphic. Make sure that she knows that you are a man who doesn’t repress his sexual urges (it’s okay!).

7.) Make your move.

If you do steps 5-7 well enough, you will find that you’ll be gradually escalating. Your flirting becomes more sexual by nature, she starts being touchier with you, and your dates become more serious. By the time that this happens, you have done well. To accomplish your mission of getting out of the friend zone, you MUST make your move. There is no way in hell that she is going to be making the first move, but she will be giving you hints that it’s okay to do something now. Do not be a fool and miss this second chance! When opportunity knocks, open the door and pounce on it.

And that’s it! I know it’s VERY simplified, but that’s the basic process that you must follow from beginning to end if you want to know how to get out of the friend zone. It took me many years and even more heartbreaks to finally figure it out, but this very process has worked MIRACULOUSLY for me every single time I have applied it.